Tools 4 Life – How do we live the life we want?
Thought to Ponder
The mind determines what is possible. The Soul surpasses it
Pilar Coolinta
Life Moments
What stops us from living the life that we want? From doing and having what we believe will fulfil us? Most of the time it is limiting beliefs that we hold about ourselves. Luckily, beliefs are easy to change but first it is necessary to identify which ones you are holding onto – and why.
That’s an interesting question, if your belief around money for example goes something like “I have to work really hard to have it” then believing that will theoretically keep you working really hard with limited gains. If a part of you knows that this isn’t true, as there are thousands of entrepreneurs in the world to prove it false, then why do you still believe it?
It’s simple – it is safer to stay with what you know than it is to venture into the unknown. When you don’t receive the monetary rewards that you would like you can conveniently (and often unconsciously) blame it on the belief – and often the source that the belief may have stemmed from (parents, environment etc). But what if you were to step out of your own box and start to believe something different, something empowering, something that helps you live the life you want?
That would require that you move into unknown territory with no guaranteed results, even if the result that you always relied on was one that you didn’t exactly want.
When your life is moving forward, when you are ready to grow and achieve more, have more, live more – don’t allow such a small thing like belief systems to stand in your way. Remember that your mind is just a muscle (albeit a lazy one) and you can train it however you wish to.
It will be trained either unconsciously or with purpose and direction… the choice, as always, is yours.
Word Power
- How has fear stopped you doing or having what you want?
- How often in a day do you listen to your internal critic?
- What voice do you listen to most? The one that says you can’t or the one that says you can?
Forward Movement
Identify 3 main areas in your life that you would like to work with. It can be money, health, relationships, confidence, down-time, sex … try to pick 3 that would really make an immediate difference in your life.
- Write down all the beliefs that you hold for each of your 3 areas. Write without thinking and no judgement, even if your belief seems silly, if you’re writing it down then it is somewhere in your psyche
- Now create new beliefs. Try to work with what you have but by changing the focus, it’s easier for our minds to learn something new if it has a familiar ring to it… so…
old belief: “I have to work really hard to have it” becomes : “No matter what, I always have it” - Read your new beliefs to yourself out loud (important to verbalise it) every morning for a week. You can then create a maintenance system for yourself and do it every 2nd day or whatever works for you.
Awesome post!
I’d like to add someething tho that worked hugely for me.
The powerful concept of forgiveness.
I found it extremely difficult to manifest anything in my life while still holding onto resentment from past actions performed by me or on me.
The Solution is to sit down and write letters of forgiveness to everyone you think has wronged you in the past. start off with ‘I forgive you for..’
Be detailed in what you write and get it all onto the paper
Once you are done pop the letter into an envelope and write the persons name on it.
Take the letters and burn them as you watch the smoke rise acknowledge the release from resentment
The first letter I wrote started ‘I forgive myself for..’